I find myself lately explaining the decisions I’ve made to my kids. For example, I’ve told my 17 year old I do not want him driving to an evening game an hour away after a full day of school, track practice and mental exhaustion with a friend, who has been driving for less than a year, with the game getting over at a late hour, with that same hour drive home. Nope. Sorry, buddy, but you’ll go with us, your parents, who are the more seasoned drivers, therefore giving your mom a break in the angst department, knowing you’re safe and sound and giving her a break from looking at her “Find Friends” app to see when you’ve arrived.
“I hope you understand. This is how it has to be, buddy”, I explain.
Or…
” I know you really want to go to B-Dubs. I know their wings are awesome. But they’re expensive, and I’ve made grilled chicken at home, or we could have some of the leftover pork roast from the night before. I feel bad, but we really shouldn’t be spending the money when we have good food at home”.
And then there’s…
“Yeah, your curfew is 11:30 . And here’s why….”
WAIT. STOP. HOLD THE PARENTAL PRESSES.
I. AM. YOUR. PARENT.
That’s your answer. That’s what I said, and that is ALL you need to know. I welcome all disagreement and mature talk, and questioning of my reasons, which are usually, and I dare say always well–thought out, and with your safety and well-being in mind. Short of being a “helicopter parent”, I will always have your best interest in mind when I arrive at my parenting decisions. I will never shut you out, yet I will not tolerate insolence at all. I will listen to you, even as you implore me to change my mind. I will not dismiss your pleas. I will regard you with open eyes and listening ears. I will never say I am always right, and I will definitely admit it when I see your point of view or logic.
But… and this is a HUGE “BUT”… if it is an issue on which I have strong feelings, I will remain steadfast.
Take it, live with it and know I love you.
I am your parent. I am not your friend. 
Love,
Mom
jensumandthensome 